Who is calling the shots here? It looks from this article as if Turkey is not hesitating to dictate terms to the EU. From the AFP, with thanks to Ali Dashti:
ANKARA, Nov 18 (AFP) - Turkey does not intend to recognize European Union member Cyprus, despite veiled threats by Nicosia to veto Ankara's bid to join the bloc, Foreign Minister Abdullah Gul said in an interview published Thursday.
Gul also warned EU leaders, who will decide on December 17 whether to start accession talks with Turkey, that Ankara will reject any proposals other than full membership in the European bloc.