Temporary marriage is one way in which sexual immorality is cloaked with respectability in the Islamic world by those who scoff at the West's alleged immorality. Even the ridiculously anti-free speech, politically correct and thoroughly compromised NPR was able to run this story, so the abuse must be widespread. "Abuse Of Temporary Marriages Flourishes In Iraq." by Kelly McEvers for NPR, October 19:
The practice of temporary marriage has long been common in Shiite Muslim communities, especially in Iran. The idea is that rather than having an affair, a man who wants to be sexually involved with a woman should marry her -- for a few months, or even, hours -- so the relationship will be legitimate.In Iraq, the practice was banned under Saddam Hussein but then flourished after the American invasion. Now, though, some men are using the system to take advantage of poor women, and many of Iraq's Shiites say the very religious institutions that sanction such marriages are to blame.
One mother of three, who is so ashamed about what happened to her she doesn't want to give her name, says her husband abandoned her when she found out he preferred men. She had no way to support the family.
A religious figure in her neighborhood promised to help. He brought her to his home, locked the door and had sex with her. He offered her $15.
For the man at least, it was a brief moment of muta'a, the Arabic word for pleasure -- and the Arabic word for temporary marriage.
The woman says the man who had sex with her worked with leading Shiite religious clerics in the Iraqi city of Najaf. It's one of the most revered places in Shiite Islam....
Nagham Kadhim runs a women's rights group in Najaf. She says muta'a marriage is a sensitive subject in the holy city. But she says abuse of the practice is common. "The muta'a marriage happens when there is an economic factor, like when the woman is poor and [does] not have money," she says through an interpreter. "And the religious institution would offer her those job opportunities, through working for a kindergarten, looking after children. And then she would receive like 100,000 dinars."
That's about a $100 a month. Once the women get the job, Kadhim says the institution will host seminars about temporary marriage to convince them the practice is acceptable.
The 'Right Way' To Do A Muta'a Marriage
Aqil al Shammari is a religious scholar who works with a handful of leading figures in Iraq's Shiite community. He explains that muta'a marriage goes all the way back to the Prophet Muhammad, who once told his traveling companions they could purchase a wife with a handful of dates if they were away from their regular wives.
Shammari says he has temporarily married at least five women, while traveling. Each time, he says, he paid them. He made sure they used birth control. He kept his agreement to be married for only a month. And he didn't do anything to sully their reputations afterward....
And there you have it: voila, no immorality, and he and others like him can maintain their posture of moral superiority over the West.
Mo the perv.
Remember muta'a when a Mohammedan starts waxing on about how immoral and decadent the West is.
Prophet Mo was such a perv. Islam seems to put such great emphasis on men and their sexual needs that is borders on perversion.
72 virgins
allows for 4 wives
allows for temporary wives
when a wife is disobedient men should not visit her bed
women need to hide their private parts
Mo must have been walking around with a perpetual hardon.
Form over substance. Just like Islam across the board.
Shammari should just open the first full service, Islamic " Bunny Ranch ".
It must be difficult, and time consuming, to find a temporary wife when you need one..
In these parts it's called enaging the services of a prostitute, a misdemeanor, depending on the situaiton sometimes even charged out as a gross misdemeanor. In many municipalities the gubmint has the legal authority for using a prostitute.
But in Dar al-Islam it's all caught up in holy matrimony. I betcha Moslem Americans (may peace & blessings be upon theem) are all against the forthcoming institution of gay marriage.
The practice of temporary marriage has long been common in Shiite Muslim communities, especially in Iran.
This development may be the result of the government's decision to bump the street legal minimum from 9 years of age (for female humans).
In many municipalities the gubmint has the legal authority for using a prostitute.
So ok I lied. Authority to seize your vehicle if used during the date.
Heck, even Prez Bill got busted, and he wasn't even a paying customer, the mooch.
"A religious figure in her neighborhood promised to help. He brought her to his home, locked the door and had sex with her. He offered her $15."
Gosh, I'm so relieved we have Muslims to explain the true meaning of words and also how things work in the real world. I used to call a man giving a woman money for sex prostitution. Silly me. All along it's really been marriage.
Oh, those islamics! Those islamics even taqiya-ing in the "marriage dept."
Even in the West, we don't go around lying like that!
Call a spade a spade, we do. It's nothing but a little nookie, in a One-night stand!
But I suppose lying is so ingrained into them, that they lie, even to each other.
"But in Dar al-Islam it's all caught up in holy matrimony"
Actually, there's nothing holy about ANY sexual relationship between islamics. It's always a contract.
Actually, there's nothing holy about ANY sexual relationship between islamics. It's always a contract.
But a social contract quite different from the one proposed by Rousseau.
*** 31:51 ***
You may put off whom you please of them, and you may take to you whom you please, and whom you desire of those whom you had separated provisionally; no blame attaches to you; this is most proper.
The thought of Moslems coupling brings to the my mind an image of the 54 yr old Holy Prophet Mohammed's hairy back heaving and bucking as he plunged that little girl on her 9th birthday, festive coloful party ballons bouncing along with the two.
These Moslem dudes definitely know how to run a sex scam.
Ugh.
A booty call with Allah's stamp of approval. Allah sure was merciful to this divorcee, providing her with much needed cash at a time of great financial distress. This holy man, the stirring in his loins the work of Allah the Compassionate, came to the rescue of her and the children. Christians, with their faith the size of a mustard seed that can move mountains has nothing on a marketable commodity between every woman's legs. Allah knows best.
I much prefer, from ANY ethical standard imaginable, an honest man or woman who, with NO pretense, goes to a bar and picks up someone for a one-night stand, than this HYOCRITICAL and condemnable practice of misyar marriage
I once had a discussion with a Christian fundamentalist who was opposed to homosexuality under the belief that tolerating same-sex relationships and liasons (whichever) would "destroy" the family structure. I argued the opposite, that expecting homosexuals to marry and raise families, in opposition to their TRUE nature, is much more destructive of ethics and the family structure than said people honestly acting upon their true natures. Eventually, the reality of the situation wins out, the gay person in question MUST exit the closet, and EVERYONE is left to pick up the proverbial psychological and physical damage. It is better that honesty reign and people "to their own selves be true."
I've known several women who married gay men who, for religious reason, tried as hard as they could (but impossibly) to be heterosexual for religious reasons; and I have seen the moral chaos this brings into the lives of everyone concerned.
Is this "moral relativism"? No. On the contrary:
In the vignettes presented by the above article, we see the chaos and immoral conditions, familial destruction, cost in social terms of hypocrisy, etc. that "temporary marriages" wreak upon Muslim (AND non-Muslim) society. Think of all the women left with children, but no father to be seen. Think of all the women bereft of emotional and physical support, floating about in a society that disdains them for not having towed the traditional ethos, for being "damaged goods."
In conclusion: It's better to be honest and retain some moral integrity.
What your words call to mind is a vignette (sorry, I can not call the exact location) of a hadith in which Uncle Mo gets a "revelation" from Allah (Mo's invisible friend) in which he is permitted to circumvent moral law and take his stepson's daugher Zaynab as a new wife. Aishah responded (in what degree of sarcasm only trans-historical projection can take us): It is simply amazing how quickly Allah answers your prayers.
Indeed!
So despite (or maybe because of) the fact that she was "married" to Mo at age 6, it looks as though she had him figured out pretty well. But she was in no position to do anything about it but play along with his whims and keep up the appearance of loyalty to him, even after his death.
Sad.
Is there no end to the ABSURDITY of Islam?!
There are legal use of temp marriage they can have than peroid of 100 year which is pretty permanent relateship. Some family make unreasonable demand for the hand of they daughter like you must have than income of 1 billion dollar ayear saveing of 100 billion dollar than temp marriage doesnot needed parent approval so the lovebird can reach than more reasonable contact. It alot like common in law marriage in the western world, the idear of common in law marriage started in the dark age europe as than mean of serfs and poor town people can get marry without expensive church wedding the local ruler just recognite they where legality marry to each other after they declare thenself hushand and wife before than group of people unlike church marriage which was impossible to end legality by divorse common in law marrry can be legality end by than court of law. Common in law marriage arenot legal anymore in most western countries today.
Soldiers returning from the Middle East joke about the practice there of taking a "wife for the night." It is a degrading and abusive attitude toward women no matter where it is practiced, but it is particularly degrading where women are systematically abused and oppressed and taken advantage of and made responsible for the actions of men (Islam). It takes advantage of the most vulnerable women in Islamic societies, just like prostitution in any society takes advantage.
An interesting account:
http://www.iol.ie/~afifi/BICNews/Personal/personal22.htm
Muta'a marriage is a prostition ring franchise parceled out by Shi'ite Ayatollah's. In Iran they advertise for sex workers, temporary marriage providers, in the newspapers. Your ramblings, Defecator of Islam, convince no one. A mouthful of feces is all you bring to the table.
Mohamamad encouraged his warriors to get sigehs(temporarily marry woman)to satisfy sexual desires. So do not be surprised. Didnot he marry Aisha who was just nine. That is Islamic way of marriage. Mohammad married his daughter-in-law (his adopted son's wife) as a Allah's order to him to do so.
His marriage to Zaynab, Ziad's wife, flew in the face of Arab morality. I guess "Allah's messenger" got a special dispensation on that one.
Aisha commented in the hadith "It's amazing how quickly Allah answers your prayers."
I wonder what Aisha really was thinking even after the old goat's demise.