Their demands, mind you. Islamic tradition leaves little room for a wife to refuse sex for any reason, leading to an epidemic of marital rape that continues to keep hospitals busy (where women can get to them) in places like Pakistan, and the Shi’ite “family law” in Karzai’s Afghanistan that allows husbands to withhold food from wives who won’t have sex.
As for the men, Muhammad’s got their back on this one, of course:
“If a husband calls his wife to his bed [i.e. to have sexual relation] and she refuses and causes him to sleep in anger, the angels will curse her till morning” (Sahih Bukhari 4.54.460).”
“By him in Whose Hand lies my life, a woman can not carry out the right of her Lord, till she carries out the right of her husband. And if he asks her to surrender herself [to him for sexual intercourse] she should not refuse him even if she is on a camel’s saddle” (Ibn Majah 1854).”
Lastly, one can’t help but note that in his pious rant below, this Malaysian MP has probably given us “way too much information” about his problems at home. Under Sharia, he would have the option of taking up to four wives, so he can have not one, but four broken relationships, with his sense of entitlement preventing him from realizing the truth of that classic “demotivator“: “The only consistent feature in all of your dissatisfying relationships is you.”
“Malaysian MP Says Men Have Affairs Because Wives ‘Neglect’ Their Duty in Bed,” from Agence France-Presse, April 7 (thank to Twostellas):
Malaysian men have extramarital sex because of “wives who neglect their responsibilities” to their husbands, a Malaysian lawmaker told Parliament on Thursday, outraging women’s groups.
As we have also seen with the wave of violence that has used Jones’ Qur’an burning as a pretext, he accepts no notion of free will to resist perceived provocations. No, it’s always someone else’s fault. It’s a little more difficult to blame Israel in bed, though.
“Husbands driving home after work see things that are sexually arousing and go to their wives to ease their urges,” said independent lawmaker Ibrahim Ali, according to online portal Malaysiakini.
“But when they come home to their wives, they will say, “˜wait, I”m cooking,” or “˜wait, I”m getting ready to visit relatives”,” Ibrahim said.
“In Islam, wives are supposed to stop everything to fulfill their husband’s demands.”
“As for those from whom ye fear rebellion, admonish them and banish them to beds apart, and scourge them.” – Qur’an 4:34. And yes, it does say to beat them.
Ali heads Perkasa, a right-wing Malay nationalist group seeking to protect ethnic Malay dominance in politics.
It is also an Islamic supremacist move: Malays are defined in the constitution, whether individuals like it or not, as a Muslim people.
His strident comments came as he asked about plans by the government’s religious development department to educate wives on their responsibilities.
“Our duty to the party.”
Wives failing in their duties pushed men to go to “private places to satisfy their urges”, he said.
Too much information.
An aide to the lawmaker confirmed the remarks but declined further comment.
His comments prompted fury among women’s groups in a nation with a growing sex industry and a problem with human trafficking.
Women’s Aid Organisation chief Ivy Josiah said Ibrahim’s comments were unacceptable for a parliamentarian.
“I am appalled as he equates women to being a sex toy and what is worse is that he uses religion to try and justify his position,” she told AFP.
“The comments not only show that Ibrahim Ali is a Malay supremacist but a male supremacist as well.”
Rights group Tenaganita, who monitor issues of human trafficking and abuse, said such sentiments were one of the causes of human trafficking in the country.
“Because people like Ibrahim Ali believe it is their right to get sex anytime from their wives, or otherwise seek it from elsewhere, that’s why you have a growing sex industry and we see such human trafficking cases,” senior coordinator Aegile fernandez told AFP.
Last March, the government launched a national plan against human trafficking as the country moves to quash its image as a transit point for traffickers.
With one of Asia’s largest populations of foreign labour, Malaysia relies on illegal and legal migrants to work as domestic servants, in plantations, factories and to service the local sex industry.
Malaysian lawmakers also clashed with women’s groups last month after a government parliamentarian claimed women were “slow” at the wheel and “oblivious” on the roads.
Moves toward a Saudi-style ban on women’s driving? Nothing is impossible as Sharia creeps forward.