If there were truth in advertising, it would be the “Free Sex for Me, But Not for Thee Act of 2011.” Not all Iranian women are willing to see the bill sail through unchallenged, knowing how they will be victimized by it. An update on this story. “Iranian women fight controversial ‘polygamy’ bill,” from Payvand News, December 1 (thanks to The Religion of Peace):
On a summer night in 2008, the wives of some Iranian members of Parliament started receiving phone calls. “Would you mind if I married your husband – just for a week?” asked the female voice on the end of the line.
The callers argued that taking another wife is a Muslim man’s right. By allowing it, the MPs” wives would be performing a good Islamic deed. Some of the wives hung up in shock.
But marrying the MPs was the last thing the callers actually wanted. In reality, they were women’s rights activists opposed to a controversial “Family Protection Bill” which the Iranian government proposed in 2007.
The activists say they discovered that at least 65 male members of the country”s 290-strong parliament had two or more wives. This is despite the fact that polygamy contravenes the International Covenant on Civil and Political Rights (ICCPR), which Iran has ratified. Article 23 stipulates that states must ensure that men and women have equal rights when marrying or at the dissolution of marriage.
If passed, “The Family Protection Bill” would reduce Iranian women’s rights even further, allowing men to take up to three additional wives without the consent or knowledge of their first spouse. Iranian law currently allows Muslim men to have up to four wives, but only after obtaining a court order demonstrating the permission of the first spouse and his ability to treat them all equally. For women who depend entirely on their husband’s income, sharing that with a second, third or fourth wife can mean severe financial hardship.
Qur’an 4:3 allows a man up to four wives. The existing arrangement was likely intended all along as a temporary accommodation to get a foot in the door for polygamy. It has served its purpose.
According to Shi”a Islam, Iranian men can already take any number of “temporary wives” without informing their first wife. The length of a temporary marriage is defined in advance and can last anything from hours to decades. Temporary wives generally face social ostracism, and their children may face difficulties in accessing public services such as education because if the marriage is unregistered, it may be hard for the mother to prove paternity.
And hapless wives will be sitting ducks for any venereal diseases their husbands pick up.
Roya Kashefi of the Association of Iranian Researchers works closely with women’s rights activists in Iran.
“In Islam, family is the most important element within society,” she says.
Islam did not invent and does not have a monopoly on that idea, by far, though polygamy radically changes the nature of the household and the relationships between its members.
“It’s a sacred entity and there are many articles in the Iranian Constitution that point to the importance of marriage. So it’s very contradictory to have laws that actually endanger the very foundation of that marriage with polygamy.”
Under common sense, it is contradictory. Under Sharia, it is not, because the Qur’an has made polygamy lawful. Indeed, Muhammad was a prolific polygamist himself, and he is also the exemplar of good Islamic conduct according to Qur’an 33:21. To prohibit polygamy is to risk implying that Muhammad made a mistake, or that his example in that regard is not relevant to all times and places. That, clearly, will be an obstacle to reform.
Roya Kashefi has helped to organize a Europe-wide tour publicizing a banner inscribed with the tragic stories of 40 Iranian women who are second wives, temporary wives or the children of such marriages. The tour, named “Chehel Tikeh” (“Forty pieces”) is aimed at raising international awareness about the discriminatory bill.
The banner was taken to Iran’s parliament, the Majles, a year ago, although MPs refused to accept it.
Fifteen thousand women signed a petition calling for a ban on polygamy, submitted at the same time.
Women’s rights activists are urging the Iranian authorities to outlaw polygamy, grant equal divorce and custody rights and create laws tackling domestic violence.
At the moment married women in Iran can be prevented from working, leaving the country or pursuing further education by their husbands. It is difficult for a woman to divorce her husband without his consent – even if he has been violent towards her. If she remarries after divorce, she loses custody of any children.
Activists say provisions in the new bill will make it even more difficult for women to obtain a divorce, leaving thousands at risk of continued domestic violence, which is not currently criminalized under Iranian law.
Qur’an 4:34 allows a man to hit (yes, hit) women in his household from whom he fears disobedience. Muhammad struck Aisha for disobeying, hard enough to cause pain (Sahih Muslim 2127). There again is the same obstacle to reform.
Four years after its inception, the bill has still not been passed, largely because of widespread opposition from a broad coalition of women’s groups….