Due to Islamic religious edicts against homosexuals, gay Muslims live under psychological torture and physical threats, as revealed in a BBC series and also in the article below, which features a 26-year-old student from Pakistan who tells “his coming out story, which began when he was 4 years old”:
That was when his strict Muslim father began noticing “girly” things about the toddler….So what did Daddy do? He fed his son an overdose of sleeping pills. Better for little Saad to die young than shame the family.
What “daddy” was doing was trying to “spare” his little son from what he considered to be a fate worthy of death. Death for homosexuality is a sharia penalty; sharia values have now been exported to the West through Muslim immigration, and are not being challenged enough. Instead, they are being swept under the carpet for fear of being branded “racist,” “Islamophobic” and “xenophobic.”
An Islamic preacher, Sheikh Dr. Farrokh Sekaleshfar, “called for gay people to be executed gave sermons in Orlando just weeks before the Pulse nightclub massacre.” Sekaleshfar taught that killing homosexuals was an act of love and compassion. He stated:
“We see the physical killing as something brutal, and this is the point when human hatred toward the act has to be done out of love,” he said in the 2013 talk. You have to be happy for that person … we believe in an afterlife, we believe in an eternal life … and with this sentence, you will be forgiven and you won’t be accountable in the hereafter.”
Yet Western leaders continue without conscience to turn a blind eye to the real victims of human rights abuses and minimize the threats to Western freedoms, while sharia incursions continue to chip away at the democratic foundations that are in place for the protection of all the people.
The BBC report on Pakistani gay Muslims sheds some light on the psychological terror and real physical threats faced by Muslims who are homosexuals in Britain, but it is a ubiquitous problem:
Many gay men throughout the Islamic world have been fighting for the right to merely exist.
Unfortunately, the article below uses the plight of being gay in the Muslim world as a means to slam Trump’s Executive Order to temporarily ban immigration from specific Muslim countries. A reminder: the countries listed were determined by former president Obama, in order to protect all Americans of all nationalities and creeds. The focus of criticism should be that the worst persecuted — gays, Christians and Yazidis — should have been prioritized in Western nations as refugees.
I hadn’t been so moved by a young boy’s story since I spent nearly two hours weeping through the movie Lion. Somehow, though, I managed to hold back the tears while Saad (not his real name) shared his gripping childhood recollection.
During a lunch that lasted longer than Lion, the 26-year-old student from Pakistan told me his coming-out story, which began when he was 4 years old. That was when his strict Muslim father began noticing “girly” things about the toddler. In the man’s closed mind, there was no question about it: His little boy had to be gay.
So what did Daddy do? He fed his son an overdose of sleeping pills. Better for little Saad to die young than shame the family.
Thankfully, Saad’s mother, who would be his protector and his only champion in life, arrived on the near-death scene just in time.
“She found the empty bottle and rushed me to the hospital, and the doctors saved my life,” Saad told me.
His mother died several years ago, leaving her son emotionally alone in the world. His brother and sister are both married with families. They view Saad through the same harsh lens as their father. To his entire surviving immediate family, he’s destined to spend eternity being scorched by the burning flames of hell.
To Saad, who has been living, studying, and working in Australia for two years, he’s already getting singed. Soon after our lunch, he returned to his hometown, just outside of the Pakistani capital of Islamabad, for the third time since moving to Australia. It didn’t take more than one day for his father to reapply pressure for Saad to submit to an arranged marriage with a relative. Apparently, marrying his kin is preferable to leading a gay life.
I am ok…, he wrote to me one day by WhatsApp text. There is a great tension going on between my Dad, me and my siblings…
As I told you that all they want is to control me…
I am scared… I just hope I get back safely and I can find [a] way to get my permanent residency there…
Saad’s inheritance is also at risk. His mother, who worked as a professional with an advanced degree, made a point of leaving something extra behind for Saad, because she knew he would face more life challenges than his siblings.
He’s worried that his family will use his sexual orientation to cut him out of his inheritance, or worse, as grounds for his execution. In order to prevent stories from getting back home, Saad leads a monastic existence in Australia, where he’s currently earning his master’s degree, with hopes of eventually completing his PhD.
He works downtown and lives in a two-bedroom apartment with nine other people (four sleep in each bedroom, two in the living room). He doesn’t date, for fear that stories might get back to his family in Pakistan and thus jeopardize his life. At 26, he’s never had sex, and he’s never been kissed. His anxiety over his first time is compounded by a different kind of fear, one that he is unable to alleviate through alcohol.
In keeping with his Muslim faith, Saad does not drink. During his first 24 years in Pakistan, he’d never even seen alcohol. Drugs are also on his personal don’t list.
A genuine fear of God inspires his teetotaling. He’s terrified that he already has a date with the Devil, and he doesn’t want to tempt fate any more than he already has.
At the moment, he has an even more all-consuming fear. Later this year, his student visa will expire, requiring him to leave Australia and return to Pakistan for good. He doubts he’ll be able to get an extension, and he’s convinced he wouldn’t be able to survive for long back in his country.
When I met up with Saad after his return to Australia, I spent our two-hour dinner trying to talk him out of contemplating suicide.
“I am the only one who doesn’t have any control,” he said, fighting tears. “The only control I have is to end myself.”
The way he saw himself, he was a failure – as a son, as a brother, as a Muslim, as a human. If he had to die, he figured, it might as well be by his own hand.
Saad’s personal story is a bracing reminder of how explosive LGBTQ issues are in developing countries dominated by religion. For him, being a non-”masculine” gay might literally cost him his life. And his is not just a gay story. It’s an immigrant’s lament, as he faces many of the same worries and fears as the refugees whom Donald Trump would rather bar from entering the United States.
While gays in the U.S. have spent the past decades fighting for the right to serve in the military and the right to marry (a right that continues to elude gays in Australia), many gay men throughout the Islamic world have been fighting for the right to merely exist. Despite the general disapproval of homosexuality and the criminalization of sodomy in Pakistan (where the harshest punishment is life imprisonment), it’s not the government that poses the biggest threat to the LGBTQ population. It’s traditional and ultra-religious families like Saad’s.
LGBTQ issues are complicated in Pakistan and in some ways, contradictory. Although gay marriage remains illegal, last year a new fatwa ruled that transgender people can legally wed. There is also a large and growing LGBTQ community defying the moral and legal restrictions. But the odd rally aside, they live largely in the shadows.
I spoke to a 20-year-old gay Muslim who lives in Islamabad and says he’s out to his parents and doesn’t feel threatened living in the capital. That doesn’t mean he isn’t careful. He doesn’t dare include a public face pic in his profiles on hook-up apps, but he’ll freely share face and XXX pics privately. Of course, everyone’s coming-out story and gay experience is different, and perhaps he’s too young to be fully aware of what goes on outside of his relatively accepting microcosm.
If you log on to Grindr or Scruff in Pakistan, it’s business as usual, only more X-rated than in the West. (Scruff offers a blunt greeting that warns of the potential punitive ramifications of engaging in homosexual acts in the country.) In my travel experience, the more repressed the culture, the more direct and sex-obsessed the boys are on online….