Myra Farooqi writes in the Times that “I cannot defend the arbitrary limitations of Muslim love because I have been broken by them.” However, she is not criticizing those limitations: “for a while I blamed my mother and religion,” but apparently she is over all that now. And “the onus of sacrifice lies with the non-Muslim whose family is presumably more open to the possibility of interfaith relationships.” She knows it can work: “I have since watched Muslim friends marry converts. I know it’s possible to share a love so endless that it can overcome these obstacles.” But only if the non-Muslim is willing to sacrifice.
Islamic marriage laws are based on supremacist assumptions. The idea is that the Muslim community will always grow at the expense of the non-Muslim community, and that because that is a good outcome, any means, including deception, may be pursued in order to attain it. Also, pressure is brought on Hindu women to convert because of the Qur’an: “And do not marry polytheistic women until they believe. And a believing slave woman is better than a polytheist, even though she might please you. And do not marry polytheistic men until they believe. And a believing slave is better than a polytheist, even though he might please you. Those invite to the fire, but Allah invites to paradise and to forgiveness, by His permission. And he makes clear his verses to the people that perhaps they may remember.” (Qur’an 2:221)
And here is the New York Times justifying that.
“New York Times provides platform to Islamic bigotry, columnist claims onus to convert is on non-Muslims after Hindu boyfriend refuses to convert,” by K Bhattacharjee, OpIndia, April 17, 2021:
The New York Times on Friday provided platform to Islamic bigotry in a blog where the author narrates her ‘tragic’ love story. It is the story of a son who refused to abandon his parents and and that of a daughter who could not convince her parents to accede to her wish.
The protagonists in the love story were a Hindu man of Indian origin and a Muslim woman with roots in Pakistan….
Things were going well and the question of marriage came up. Both were eager to tie the knot and none of them believed it was too soon, which is a bit crazy since the elephant in the room had not been addressed but love is like that.
She told him on their fifth date, “If we decide to be together, you need to understand that the only way forward is for you to convert. It won’t make things easy, but it will make things possible.” The boy, apparently, replied that he was ‘game’….
Farooqi told her mom that the man was not Muslim, not Pakistani and could not speak either Urdu or Hindi. So, naturally, her mother burst into tears. However, Farooqi’s mother recovered from the shock when she told her that the he was willing to convert to Islam. Again, naturally.
The boy, apparently, was jubilant initially but soon turned anxious after realizing that her mother’s approval was predicated entirely on his conversion to Islam. One tends to guess he went to one of those schools where they teach religion does not matter and a world without borders would be utopia.
Ultimately, he found the spine to tell her, “I will never convert to Islam. Not nominally, not religiously.” “Then that’s it,” she replied. And that is where the two star-crossed lovers parted ways….
Farooqi says of the whole affair, “Many people will never understand the requirements of marrying a Muslim. For me, the rules about marriage are stubborn, and the onus of sacrifice lies with the non-Muslim whose family is presumably more open to the possibility of interfaith relationships.”
“Many will say it’s selfish and incongruous that a non-Muslim must convert for a Muslim. To them I would say I cannot defend the arbitrary limitations of Muslim love because I have been broken by them. I lost the man I thought I would love forever,” she adds.
The sense of entitlement here is quite astounding. The confidence with which she says that the onus of conversion lies with the non-Muslim half of the relationship is quite astounding. Even more bizarre is the fact that the New York Times actually published this garbage.
She assumes that non-Muslim families are more open to interfaith relationships. In her case, quite clearly, her boyfriend’s family was not. She does not appreciate once that her boyfriend and his family never insisted on her conversion to Hinduism. But she takes it for granted that the man should convert to Islam…..
Such incidents do not occur in the United States alone. They happen in India too. Only recently, a Hindu neighbourhood in Delhi was attacked by Islamists because a Muslim woman married a Hindu man out of her own volition.
Not too long ago, ‘JNU scholar’ Shehla Rashid was forced to delete her Facebook account after receiving rape threats from Islamists for saying that Muslim women should be able to marry Hindu men if they so desired. Her post was prompted by the murder of Ankit Saxena by the family of his girlfriend for their relationship.
Even on the face of such unparalleled bigotry, it is Hindus who are demonized for highlighing the issue of ‘Love Jihad’, which is a legitimate cause of concern as the women in such cases are duped by Muslim men faking a Hindu identity or forced to convert, often through physical violence.
Thus, the love story in question is quite astounding. Farooqi says that the onus to convert is on non-Muslims since their families are more open to interfaith relationships. And yet, at the same time, her coreligionists tell us that it is Hindus who are more intolerant of the same. It’s a ‘heads I win, tails you lose’ situation. And arguments are twisted to always favour one side. And that side is not of non-Muslims.
Eur says
So tolerant….
mortimer says
BLAME THE KAFIRS!!! The male kafirs are obviously Islamophobic, since don’t want to have their body parts amputated by Muslims when they look at Muslim women! IMAGINE THE INTOLERANCE!
(Yes, dear lady … but, the intolerance comes from Islam.)
born saturday says
islamic perversion comes in a huge variety of perverted rules and laws of islam…
mortimer says
Only Ismaili Islam (the cult of the Aga Khan) allows intermarriage without conversion. That happened only recently.
The Aga Khan is more authoritative than the Koran.
Check Burry says
How do they manage to love and smite?
Joeyn says
All i can say you would be much better off marrying a gorilla than converting to Islam.
Mike says
so what’s the difference?
mortimer says
Islam is an HONOR CULTURE which settles loss of honor issues with VIOLENCE, TORTURE and DEATH.
Unless you follow ALL the rules of Islam you can be killed, beat up or your house or business burned down with the approval of the mullahs.
Why would anyone marry a practicing Muslim?
JOEYN says
+1
gregbeetham says
Nobody with a functioning brain would go anywhere near a Muslim bride, Islam is a true cult of Satan.
Muslims seem to be convinced that Islam has ‘honour’ in some fashion when it has none. The logic centre in their brain melted down long ago if they think that deceit and lying and murdering is honourable.
JOEYN says
At least with a Gorilla you will not have to fill your mind and heart with crap while with Islam you will be forced to do that.
Christopher Watson says
You leave my wife out of this!
Prince Eugene says
Muslim apologists and Jorge Bergoglio often speak of “dialogue” (that one-way arrangement in which Muslims tell non-Muslims about Islam and non-Muslims must shut up and listen), but the only language the Quran speaks is Jihad: Listen not to the unbelievers, but strive (Jihad) against them with the utmost strenuousness. (25:52)
mortimer says
Yes, HRH PE, a ‘one-way arrangement’. Part of JIHAD is to SILENCE ALL OBJECTIONS to Islamic supremacy.
A one-way ‘dialogue’ is a monologue.
Steven says
What man in is right mind would be foolish enough to convert to Islam to marry a Muslim women? They wear bag suits so you do not even know what she looks like. It’s like getting the Door Prize.
So I have a suggestion. How about Muslim women denouncing Islam and convert to Christianity or some other NON Islam region and marrying a NON Muslim man to better their lives.
PRCS says
Some percentage of CAIR staff members, would and apparently have.
mortimer says
It’s easier for Muslim women to marry out of Islam, since they may take the non-Arab name of their husband. They can move to another city or state and hide their location from family. There is a price to pay in such inter-marriage, because Islam is so INTOLERANT of it.
Check Burry says
Yes one of the costs is the uncomfortable lump of a Smith & Wesson under your pillow
Infidel says
I know that cognitive dissonance is non existent among muslims, but here’s a thought experiment for Myra Farooqi. Let’s assume that he was the muslim in the relationship while she was the Hindu. Would she then have happily embraced islam, overriding her mother’s objections? After all, the parents of both Myra and her boyfriend objected to their respective child converting
And like the article noted, there was no appreciation from this muslimah that her would-(not)-be in-laws didn’t once ask that she convert to Hinduism: they would have been perfectly happy to let her remain islamic. But that wasn’t enough for her: she had to try converting him as well, and in the process, lost him
Andrew Blackadder says
That guy is better off without her as she really didnt love him otherwise she would change the rules for her, and for him.
However she feels her Fascist Religious Cult is more important to her than the love of her life.
She has made her own prison.
In India they say… Love the one you marry, do not marry the one you love…
mortimer says
Agree. Islam is a prison for women and Mohammed says so in his last and unimpeachable sermon.
“Women are your prisoners and domestic animals.” – Mohammed
Myra Farooqi has chosen to remain in the PRISON of Islam’s honor culture.
AdaptivelyEmergent . says
Is that quote from the Hadith. I never came across this yet.
gravenimage says
In his farewell speech, Muhammad states simply that wives are prisoners to their husbands. This is written in the biography of Muhammad by Ibn Ishaq on p. 651, penultimate paragraph:
“Place obligations upon women for they are your prisoners and have no control over their persons, and you are given the enjoyment of their persons through the words of Allah.”
Hadith 1.9.490 of Bukhari
‘Aisha has handed down to us: “Before my time facts were mentioned that cancel prayers. They said, “Prayers are cancelled by a dog, a donkey, and a woman (when they are passing in front of people engaged in prayers).” I said, “You have turned us (the women) into dogs. I saw the Prophet in prayer while I was lying in bed between him and the Qibla (direction of Mecca). When I needed something I slipped away since I did not want to pass in front of his face.”
There are other similar ones.
Brando says
I have come to learn it is a Typical Leftist Trick,the NY Times is Leftist:
Throw the Blame on the Victim.
How?By WORD-PLAY.Here is another example.The journal “The Guardian” is a Leftist UK paper and they use the trick used by HITLER in MEIN KAMPF:
In Chapter 10 of Mein Kampf Hitler said to use the BIG LIE to succeed:repeating a lie over and over and over, and many(most?) will believe it.
EXAMPLE
1.Today more than 50% of men 18-30 in the West ( by the way, 70% of them are LEFTISTS themselves) are involuntary celibates.
2.Leftist leaders show their contempt for their OWN followers ( for them,they are just cannon fodder) by Not Caring about them.
3.Being POOR is NOT a Movement or Ideology: some are Leftists,some are Not,some poor are Theists,some are Atheists,some are Vegetarians,some Not.
The SAME for MARRIED Men,it is a LIFE SITUATION,Not an Ideology or Movement.
4.Yet The Guardian lies by saying Involuntary Celibates(Incels) are ( in MARCH 2021):
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2021/mar/03/incel-movement-terror-threat-canada
“The misogynist incel movement is spreading. Should it be classified as a terror threat?” ( TITLE of the article)
The articles opens by saying:
“As attacks linked to the misogynist “incel” MOVEMENT mounted in recent years,
authorities around the world have begun to treat
the IDEOLOGY as a more serious TERRORISM THREAT.
Since 2014, men who call themselves “involuntary celibates” and blame women for their own lack of sexual and social status have carried out mass killings in California, Florida, and Toronto.”
mortimer says
The NYT is blaming non-Muslims for choosing not to enter Islam’s PRISON.
Why would NYT blame someone for choosing NOT to enter a prison, put on the uniform and go to live in a prison cell?
Brando says
My impression is the NYT is following a policy of Always Defending the Actions of Muslims under All Situations.
They also practice CANCEL CULTURE ( Censorship via Intimidation/Harassment/Threats)
THE FATHER OF CANCEL CULTURE
He was HERBERT MARCUSE,a German Jew who is the most famous member of the Marxist-Leftist FRANKFURT SCHOOL.
In his “Repressive Tolerance”:
He advocated CENSORSHIP because to tolerate( allow freedom of speech )
to what for him(a Leftist) is UNACCEPTABLE/ Intolerable,
is to practice REPRESSIVE TOLERANCE ( tolerance of what is Anti-Human Rights).
wishbone says
Why don’t they just go to Las Vegas and get laid, legally?
Bev says
There is no love in Islam. And you don’t get to count the love of raping, maiming and killing non-believers.
mortimer says
Actually, Bev, there is love and romance in Islam, but it shouldn’t be demonstrated in public.
Islam treats women like prisoners and is miserable for women who don’t have a loving husband.
Ex-Muslim Nonie Darwish says monogamy is the greatest blessing to women.
Check Burry says
In northern UK towns, many muslims, i see many of their women walking with heavy shopping bags, they look really pissed off, they wear dull old clothing, quite heavy overcoats scarf in summer, I dont think its just the weighty bags draggin gthem down.
gravenimage says
There is no love in Islam.
In the few case where you do find love in a Muslim marriage, it is *despite* not because of Islam.
john smith says
Absolutely true Gravenimage, there is no love in islam.
Like you say “where you do find love in a muslim marriage, it is despite not because of islam”.
Devout muslims have so much hatred in them, that they are totally incapable of having any loving feelings, they don’t even love their own children. I am not saying this about all muslims, but it certainly applies to many of them.
Niemoller says
It’s interesting that “a believing slave woman” is an accepted thing in real Islam. Islamist propagandists today would have us believe that only infidels were slaves. It never had the echo of truth though; after all, Muslims would regularly castrate male slaves. No slave would go through that if they merely could say they are Muslim in order to be free and keep their testicles. Islam is a sick force, giving the cruelest and most perverted men a ready excuse for their evil.
mortimer says
Islam is systemically misogynistic and discriminates against kafirs.
Infidel says
I congratulate the boyfriend for seeing sense, and parting ways w/ her. Although the best course of action for any non-muslim – male or female – is to not date a muslim in the first place!
They peacefully parted, w/o indulging in an honor killing, and the NYT laments that he wasn’t tolerant enough to convert to islam?
Exit question: if they lived in NY, why would he need to know Hindi or Urdu? Since when is that a required language there? Stick to English if you’re not marrying someone from your own linguistic group
OTTER says
This woman has confirmed that Islam is a prison for women. That’s why she could not break out of it. My suggestion to her is to promptly become the fourth wife of some Muslim preferably around 70.
Infidel says
Or she could marry Dzhokhar Tsarnaev
Infidel says
Also, a year ago, a major Indian jewelry brand Tanishq (owned by the Tatas) put out a commercial showing a pregnant Hindu woman celebrating a Hindu version of a baby shower, which was thrown for her by her muslim mother-in-law. That ad sparked outrage amongst Hindus, as it came in the wake of the murder of a Hindu guy who was dating a muslimah. Finally, in response to the outrage, Tanishq pulled that ad
While Indian secularists condemned this backlash, a muslim man happened to write to Darul Uloom Deoband asking them whether he could have the same sort of life depicted in that ad i.e. allowing his Hindu wife to continue to remain that after their marriage. Their answer was a swift and unmistakable NO! In other words, while woke companies present an idyllic scene of a muslim family happily celebrating Hindu traditions of their Hindu wives, in reality, there is no way that such an arrangement would be acceptable in islam
This year, so far, I’ve not seen Indian companies go woke as they did in previous years. In the past, Hindu festivals like Holi and Diwali were targeted by companies for virtue-signaling campaigns, be it wasting water or polluting the environment w/ fireworks (for one day!) while eid was celebrated reverentially w/ a biryani plate w/ the biryani arranged in the shape of a ☪ This year before Holi, there was enough warning from Hindus to these companies threatening boycotts, and telling those companies that ‘My festivals are not your awareness causes’. Chances are that the message got thru to them
AdaptivelyEmergent . says
Is that quote from the Hadith? I never came across this yet.
Kepha says
Welcome to one of the grand stupidities of modern American culture, Ms. Farooqi; namely, that the most assertive cult wins, regardless of truth or decency . For people between my parents’ generation and mine, it was assumed that when a Roman Catholic was in a mixed marriage, the onus to convert was on the non-RC partner. Nothing else was so clear an evidence of the degeneracy of Protestantism under the liberal ascendancy–which actually accepted that norm, even when it was destructive to itself. So now Islam claims the same in our early 21st century America. As a Christian, I hold no candle for your boyfriend’s Hinduism, but I respect him for at least thinking with his head about what a religious conversion entails.
Any tradition with any sticking power seeks to build a community. For any community, the bedrock is heterosexual, reproducing families. This is an unavoidable fact of both historical and biological life–which, unhappily, our liberal order does not understand. Again, as s a Christian, I hold no candle for either Islam or Hinduism. However, I can understand some of the whys and wherefores of Ms. Farooqi’s romance running aground.
Beneath the Veil of Consciousness says
This excellent article begs the question as to why Muslim women seek out non-Muslim men in the first place. I’ve often wondered about the Muslim women in America being so isolated from the rest of society. I can’t imagine any non-Muslim signing up for such a segregated life. It’s funny that she would berate a man who hasn’t even accepted the “assignment” as if he’s obligated to do so. More reason to stay away. Too many red flags. The only solution for her is to choose the default option and join with a close relative thereby repeating the cycle of incestuous Muslim inbreeding. She would, genetically speaking, be having a congegale relationship with her grandfather. This is something she would rather not opt for but will fail to criticize as it reflects poorly on the high price of isolation people in this cult must pay in order to avoid backlash.
Therefore, it is easier and safer to deflect her frustration over her circumstances by blaming the outsider who refuses to play ball with her and her twisted cult.
David Longfellow says
I think the best advice is to shun anything and everything associated with islam. It is a poisonous, violent cult that destroys everything it touches.
Women who willingly submit to its oppression have to standing to complain.
kepha says
I guess I’ll give up beef jiao zi next time I visit Taiwan.
somehistory says
Psychopaths always blame others….for mistakes and errors they make; for wrongs they commit…the ***victim*** asked for it, whatever “it” is; shortcomings; bad things happening due to their behavior, speech, etc.;…whenever something goes awry, it is the fault of someone other than the psychopath.
The mass-murdering, raper of children, thief, sex fiend, slave trading, lying sack of slug slime, son of satan the devil ….was a psychopath. He wrote the book on how to be a psychopath, what to do, what to say, how to wiggle and squirm and blame everyone but himself for what evil he accomplished in his filthy life.
What’s-his-face wrote “rules for radicals,” and hitler wrote the book on how to be a nazi, and the filthy buzzard in the desert wrote the book on psychopaths and what they could do and get away with, for as long as they could rape and murder their way and whine when caught. All of these psychopaths and their books of evil have caused incalculable harm to people the world over.
This girl belongs to a huge gang of psychopaths. She is a psychopath. The young man is so much better off without her. He should be ***glad*** that he was being required to “convert” if he wanted her…and hugely thankful for whatever in his heart kept him from doing that.
Infidel says
Somehistory, the original OpIndia article had it that his parents were shattered when he told them that he would be converting, and begged him not to go ahead w/ it. So he got back to her and made it clear that he wasn’t converting – not religiously, and not nominally either! And they agreed to part ways
The article also assumed that he had watched too many Bollywood movies where love trumps all, until reality hit him in the face
somehistory says
Infidel,
**Real** love is a truly powerful thing. But, mozlums don’t know love…don’t feel it, don’t express it…don’t understand it.
True love makes a person want the best for the person they love, to want that person to be happy, healthy, and he/she will do whatever it takes to see that they are, to the best of their ability. He/she will put the other person’s needs first. A good marriage works because both people do that.
mozlums are taught from day one to be selfish…to believe that they are the most, the only, important people and that only their wishes, their needs, their desires, are important and everyone else should just, as the card game says, “go fish.”
I’m sure his parents went form distress to great relief. He made the right decision.
somehistory says
Women like to have handsome boyfriends /husbands. Perhaps this young man was extra handsome…much more so that all of the mozlum males she knows. It really doesn’t sound as though she actually had love for him….just wanted to get married and didn’t wish it to be to a sleazy, hairy toad.
gravenimage says
New York Times: Muslim columnist blames non-Muslim men for refusing to convert to Islam to marry Muslim women
…………
Just appalling. No one should have to submit to Islam.
James Lincoln says
Perhaps someday the Hindu boy will realize it, but Farooqi’s mother – unintentionally – did him in incredible favor.
He should thank her – and make note of her response…
Infidel says
Aside from other things, he was Indian and she was Paki. Where did he think it would lead?
Kepha says
V.S. Naipaul ended up marrying an Ahmadi.
Linde Barrera says
No one should marry anyone to whom
they have no common bonds. No one should marry anyone based on looks
alone because the good looker might
be a narcissist and that translates to
“It’s always all about me.” Lastly, in my
opinion, the Muslim person should
convert to the Christian faith or the
religion of the spouse who isn’t Muslim
because in my opinion, Islam is the
religion of Satan the devil. ? Most of
the world’s Muslims are kind, peaceful people but Islam is a religion of fighting
and death. AND THE NY TIMES has
really stupid writers, in my opinion. ?
Ben Kennedy says
Offering sex to accomplish a political objective is called a “Honey Trap” by the people working in the Secret Intelligence Agencies world wide. In effect she says if you want to bed me you must become a moslem. The moslem man meanwhile sees a prostitute he wants to bed, so he declares her his wife before he “unzips”. After satisfying his fleshly lust, he zips his pants up and says he divorces her. This avoids moslem charges of adultery against him and her. Moslem “Stupid Word Games”. That dark age religion lives in the dark which obscures its fantasist world. Stay away from the mad Sirens as Ulysses has warned, lest the fantasy dream become your worst nightmare. No need to tell them to go to Hell because they are already on that road.